My mom has been in ICU in critical condition for almost 3 weeks now and will most likely pass away soon. They have been giving her every possible medication and has been on 70-100% oxygen and yet she hasn't gotten better during this time, only worse. She has been medically sedated and at times medically paralyzed because the slightest movement decreases her oxygen levels. Since she is sedated she is not in pain but is not aware of me talking to her and generally appears in a comatose state (but she is really asleep as if she would be going to have surgery)
My mom already had asthma, diabetes, depression, sleep apnea, vertigo, 2 bypass surgeries and 2 bouts of Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia. She went to the hospital with the flu, that turned into pneumonia, and that became Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome (ARDS). She would have turned 63 on March 18th.
My father died when I was 16. So now I'm being asked to make decisions and authorizations for care, and she is almost at the point where there will be no hope for any improvement. So soon they will turn off the machines (probably Sat. unless she dies sooner) and she would pass away peacefully.
So I am graduating in 2 weeks (actually less-5/8/2010 to be exact) from college with my 4-year Bac. degree, which took me over a decade to get. My mom just now informs me that my younger brother isn't coming, because he needs the money and is choosing to work that day instead. I think there are other reasons why he doesn't want to come. He is my only sibling.
My mom who is widowed (my dad passed away when I was 16) and lives alone (I live about 1/2 hour drive away) is giving me a hard time about me not helping her with a community garage sale a few blocks away. I don't want to because she can be a toxic person to be around (she has mental illness and many medical problems), and can't hear what I say since her hearing has been compromised the last couple of years. I feel like I can't talk to her without yelling all the time, and I have hypersensitive hearing. She doesn't have money for a hearing aid, and Medicare and Medicaid don't cover one.